Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is is a personality disorder that is estimated can apply to about 2%-16% of the population worldwide. When divorcing a narcissist partner you are potentially facing much tougher challenges than you would in a divorce that doesn’t involve a mental illness.
What are the symptoms of a narcissist? According to psychcentral.com in order for a person to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) they must meet five or more of the following symptoms:
- Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
- Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
- Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
- Requires excessive admiration
- Has a very strong sense of entitlement, e.g., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
- Is exploitative of others, e.g., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
- Lacks empathy, e.g., is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
- Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
- Regularly shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
Marriage – Divorce – Narcissist
Marriages can fall apart when one spouse is a narcissistic. During the marriage there maybe be zero communication about anything else but the narcissist. In the divorce the narcissist can talk a great game and convince the court of just about anything they want to.
Narcissism is sought of like a super hero’s shield to the rest of the world because the narcissist is completely confident in their own lies and it is very hard for the untrained eye to recognize the situation. In most cases a narcissist really does not care about the divorce or the custody of the children it is simply the act of the divorce that is bothersome as in “how dare someone not want to be with me” or “how dare someone take my children away”.
Prepare for the Battle
Consult and hire an attorney that is knowledgeable about mental illnesses and narcissism and experienced divorce attorney. Speak to your attorney frankly and openly about your partner’s NPD. Be sure that your attorney has a good understanding of exactly how manipulative your ex can be.
Stop talking to your ex! I can be hard or even impossible to reason and maintain cordial communications with your partner. You maybe be subjected to your partner’s manipulation and reach no agreement or understanding whatsoever. Let all communications go through the attorney.
You may also want to take whatever steps you need to for protection of you and your children. People with NPD can have violent tendencies when they feel like they have been done wrong.
Contact an experienced Denver attorney to discuss your particular situation and to help guide you through your Colorado divorce from a partner suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder.