Not all divorces are hostile. Often, in fact, Colorado divorce lawyers find that couples are very open to an amicable divorce, in which they peacefully settle their mutual differences, and come to an agreement.
However, there are certain factors that must already be in existence for you to have an amicable divorce. For one thing, you must respect each other. If your marriage has been marked by infighting, disputes, and hostility over the years, it may be less likely to have an amicable divorce.
That does not mean that if the last few weeks of your marriage were marked by fighting, you can’t have an amicable divorce. Resolve to put your hostility towards each other on the back burner, and do what’s right for your children.
Focus on the good in your ex-spouse. You may not want to be married to the same person, but that doesn’t mean you have to hate him or her. Understand that many of the negative feelings that you are going through right now towards your spouse are part of the process of a divorce.
Learn to forgive. Every marriage involves mistakes and missteps along the way, and forgiving each other goes a long way in ensuring that you have an amicable divorce. Also, forgiveness helps you deal with your own internal struggles. You can start all over again when you know that you have no rancor for the other person in your heart.
In order to have an amicable divorce, it is important for you to unburden your feelings. Talk to a counselor, or a friend.
Speak to a Colorado divorce lawyer about how you can have a mutually beneficial divorce that minimizes hostility and antagonism.