For every parent, it’s the biggest worry during the divorce. How your child will cope with the fact that his parents are no longer living together, or that his family life is undergoing a drastic change, is a major concern for parents who are ready to go to any length to spare their children unnecessary or excessive trauma from the divorce.
If you spot your child behaving in the following ways may indicate that your child is dealing with the situation in a better manner than you had feared.
You find your child behaving and acting as normally as he always does. That means spending his day doing the same things that he normally did, and without any major changes in behavior or moods.
He discusses the divorce. Children who are able to discuss it, and don’t feel the need to avoid discussions about the divorce are taking it in a positive manner. If your child feels comfortable asking questions about the divorce, about your plans ahead, and especially his life after the divorce, it means that he’s on the right track, and is handling the divorce well. Answer those questions as honestly as possible.
Your child wants to continue to spend time with you and the other parent. That means that there is very little of the kind of anxiety, aggression, and hostility that some children feel during a parental divorce.
The child is comfortable discussing his experiences with the divorce with both you and your spouse. That is a sign of a well-adjusted child who is coping with the divorce very well.
He continues to perform the same way as he did in school. Drops in grades, or behavior problems in school are a sign that your child is struggling to cope with the situation.
He continues to maintain friendships with his friends, and continue to participate in all the extracurricular activities and sports that he used to before.
These signs can indicate that your child is dealing with the divorce in a healthy manner.