The holidays can be some of the most painful times after a divorce. However, if you plan well in advance, are aware of what to expect, and keep things as simple as possible, you are less likely to be overwhelmed and stressed as many divorced people are during the holidays.
There are several reasons why it’s more difficult to get through the holidays than any other time of the year. These are festive times, and there is a focus on celebrating this time with family. It’s understandable hard for you not to remember the end of your own family unit during this time.
If these are your first holidays after your divorce, you may want to decide to do something different this season. You don’t necessarily have to do the usual tree- and- eggnog routine. Decide to do something different, that breaks with your earlier routine. Whatever you decide to do -whether it is a holiday trip or a weekend with friends – it should be something that you find relaxing, and stress-free.
Plan in advance for the holiday season. It’s a good idea to create new traditions for you to celebrate the holiday. If you celebrated over Christmas Eve every year, move that date up or down one day. Create new rituals that mark the beginning of your new life.
Breaking up with the past is hard. Don’t be embarrassed about asking for help from your family and friends to get through the season. If you are entertaining, keep things simple, starting with the menu and decorations. Don’t feel like you have to go all out, and throw a lavish party just to prove to everybody that you have finally gotten through your heartache. Keeping things simple helps keep things stress-free for you, and actually allows you time to enjoy your celebrations!
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