Mediation is a process that can help you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse come to terms on several aspects that must be resolved before your divorce is finalized. In Colorado you may be required to go through mediation before you can take the matter to court.
Mediation can an effective way of settling disputes during the divorce. However, just because the mediation will be conducted by a third-party neutral mediator does not mean that you can be lax, and allow your rights to be compromised. Prepare yourself mentally, emotionally, and logistically so that you are able to protect your rights at every step.
The first step is to emotionally prepare for mediation. Come prepared to negotiate and work out your differences, and not to argue. If you are in battle mode, you will need some time to settle down before you come for the first mediation session. Remember, this is the place where you will attempt to resolve your differences in an agreeable manner. The point is to avoid a trial in court where matters will be out of your hands.
Also come prepared with a practical mindset. Venting to your emotions may make you feel better temporarily, but being practical could benefit you for the rest of your life. Focus on the division of assets, alimony amount, child-support amounts, and other very crucial matters, that should be discussed and agreed upon when possible during mediation.
Come to the mediation session organized with all of your financial information. Bring copies of your bank statements, joint investment accounts, brokerage accounts, home and real estate documents, car documents, and other documents. Bring information on any loans that you currently hold.
Call a family lawyer in Colorado for help preparing for mediation.